Mental Health and Therapy Blogs, I need your help!

I have intentions to write a blog post on the harmful effects of overly rigid boundaries in the therapeutic alliance. I want to shine a light on how holding too firmly to the code of ethics and using that code as a shield actually causes more harm than care.

I see too often therapists acting in ways that aren’t in the best interest of their clients just because it goes against the code. But we are taught in our ethics classes to weigh the potential harm to the client against the potential risks of deviating from the code. There is wiggle room and many therapists aren’t taking the risk, they’re putting their asses first and the client needs second. And that isn’t okay. It’s causing damage to the client who comes to the therapist already vulnerable and hurting.

Here is what I am asking for your help on:

I want this to be bigger than just my own two experiences. I want more voices to be heard in the post I intend to write, so if you’ve ever felt hurt by a too rigid therapist and you’ve written about it, please share the link here. And please share this post so that others who may not follow me but who’ve experienced this can have their voice heard as well. I plan to categorize and quote as many people as I can, illustrating possible alternate, more client friendly outcomes using the US code of ethics and our problem solving method. If you’re in another country and have a different code please say so in the comments so I can look at your code as well.

24 Thoughts

    1. Thank you so much for sharing. Last night I tried to kill myself after a painful interaction. When I woke up this morning and got over my initial disappointment of still being alive, I decided I had to do or say something. I’m hoping this post, when I write it, will end up, at the very least, giving people the validation they need in order to feel heard and less alone.

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      1. I am so glad are still here with us. Your words are important and I know you will write something that just hits the nail on the head. I’m happy you turned your pain into action. That’s not easy.


  1. Reblogged this on Ease The Ride and commented:
    KD is putting together a piece on boundaries that are too firm within the therapy frame. If you’ve written about an experience with a therapist whose structure was overly rigid, please go to her post and share!


  2. My first long term therapist was a narcissist. She would literally switch the conversation back to her, ask me to drive by her boyfriend’s house to see if he was home, and when it came time for my SSI case? She “lost” my notes, meaning in the entire five years that I saw her she took not one note-pretty hurtful to a person who thought herself invisible to begin with. The last therapist I tried was over the top-she tried to diagnose me after ten minutes, with DID no less. This was at a really bad time in my life, and I spent a week paranoid that my “other personality” was taking over-when I simply couldn’t remember something. I don’t have DID, and I have come to the conclusion that there are more bad actors out there than not. I take my pain to Jesus. My point being: there are a plethora of problems with therapists, and yes-they can do grievous harm to our psyches. Great post~


    1. I’m so sorry all of those things have happened to you. And it is unfortunate, I’m beginning to feel like even the “good ones” are still causing unintentional harm. Some are definitely just awful people. Some are working within an awful system. I want to call out both for what they are.

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  3. I don’t know how to reblog posts! 🙈 It’s definitely a worthwhile part of therapy to explore.
    I’m sorry that you’re feeling so bad and I’m glad that you didn’t succeed and are still with us. I’m always here x


  4. I’m glad you woke up this morning. My negative experiences with treatment providers have been because of general incompetence rather than rigidity around “ethics”. I use quotations because most who start waving ethics around like a shield (or a sword) are probably misinterpreting the underlying principles behind them, and forgetting the primacy of non-maleficience. If there’s anything I can do to help please let me know, up to and including coming out there and laying the smack down on C.

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  5. The longer the days go by, the more I really hate your past therapist. She brings a whole new meaning to “Throat-punch Thursdays”. I’m so sorry this has been your experience. It isn’t fair and she shouldn’t even be able to practice if this is what she does to her clients.

    I cannot say I have had the same experience at all, but I don’t think I would even wish it upon my worst enemy. I will definitely reblog for you…….

    Good Luck!! ❤


    1. Thank you for reblogging! I am thankful that so far most people who’ve responded haven’t been able to relate. That means there are some good Therapists out there. That gives me hope.


  6. Reblogged this on This Takes Courage and commented:
    Thankfully I have not experienced this at all. It brings a whole lot of extra love and respect for my T and all that he does for me.

    If you have anything to share, please let Katie know!!


  7. I’m so sorry you felt so bad last night and am relieved you woke up. I wanted to say thank you for last night, your support really helped me not to cut and today things felt manageable attachment-wise. Sending hugs and hope your session with new T was helpful ❤


  8. Honestly, I’m not sure if any of mine truly fit the strict definition of “rigid boundaries,” but I’ve written a fair bit on my blog about discrimination, re-traumatization or abuse related to “mental health” especially in the context of those with developmental disabilities. Here’s the posts I can immediately think of that might relate (one I wrote for another site):


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