Forgiveness isn’t always a simple act. It’s a conscious choice that initially requires careful attention, at least that is how it works for me. When I first decide I must forgive a certain person I often have to gently remind myself over and over again, “I’ve forgiven this person and I’m letting that incident go,” because they will do something or say something that will put me right back in that hurtful moment.
I think it’s okay for forgiveness to be like that. It doesn’t have to be instantaneous or easy. It isn’t always as simple as forgive and forget. When something hurts us it can be hard to just move past it, but I’ve decided that I’m giving myself permission to forgive at my own pace from now on. Forgiveness is a process.