Question of the Day

Inspiration can come from strange places. This question of the day is brought to you by Brazilian drama inspired musings. Sometimes when we are raised in settings that are clinically defined as "less than nurturing" or "not good enough" (depending on whose language you choose) we learn ways of coping which, in the moment, are [...]

Missing a Therapist

I think there are probably quite a lot of people out there who are wondering: why do I miss my therapist so much between sessions? Or, maybe, like me, their therapist has moved states, referred out, or some other variation of ending the relationship; and, they find themselves feeling a deep sense of grief they [...]

A lot of change…

Again, it has been a while since I've written. I think the last I checked in, it was on the J thing (me trying to persuade her to have me for individual). Her first response was via phone, so I couldn't share that. But, after some deep soul searching I realized what I needed from [...]

Finally, Fighting for Myself

So, I’ve said I don’t know how many times on here that I really wish that I could do individual therapy with J, that I trust her and feel a sense of security with her and that she gets me. Blah, blah. All the good things. But, it was complicated because I am working K, [...]

Write from your scars, not your wounds

A wise woman said to me today, "if you want to touch others you must write from your scars,  not your wounds." I realized that the writing I have done recently, on both my blog and my Facebook, has been wound writing. And I realize that writing from this place may have had the very [...]

A Space for Love in Therapy

This blog won't be long. I don't have a lot to say on this topic, simply that I think there should be space for love in therapy. I know that's taboo. That's why we have empathy and unconditional positive regard. I get how therapists have worked really hard to protect the boundaries of the therapeutic [...]

When Self-Care Hurts

Sometimes the things we do to take care of ourselves are going to hurt. Sometimes they're going to hurt like Hell. As long as they are healthy and truly rooted in self-care, do them anyway. Yesterday, I may have taken my self-care routine a little too far but opportunities presented themselves and I took them. [...]