Asking for what we need

I had therapy with K yesterday. I was going to tell her that it had to be our last session, that I couldn't afford anymore. But then, she just said and did all the right things. I couldn't walk away. So, we set an appointment for 3 weeks from now, when I should have money [...]

A lot of change…

Again, it has been a while since I've written. I think the last I checked in, it was on the J thing (me trying to persuade her to have me for individual). Her first response was via phone, so I couldn't share that. But, after some deep soul searching I realized what I needed from [...]

A Space for Love in Therapy

This blog won't be long. I don't have a lot to say on this topic, simply that I think there should be space for love in therapy. I know that's taboo. That's why we have empathy and unconditional positive regard. I get how therapists have worked really hard to protect the boundaries of the therapeutic [...]

The Power of the Gaze

Yesterday I went on another date. While she was lost in my eyes, I was lost in my head. My date, we will call her Sarah (not her real name), asked me a few moments before the aforementioned moment, "what happens in your head from the time we have deep meaningful conversations to the time [...]