Therapy Homework: “Love Letters” Technique

I am not going to lie, I was going to adamantly not do this weeks therapy homework. When Dr. W gave me the paper that says, "The purpose of this love letter is to express and resolve all the negative feelings that prevent you from experiencing and sharing the love you feel deep inside", I thought, "this [...]

Why it is okay to express emotions

Preface: This day 3 years ago I wrote the following on my facebook feed: "All the best characters in the best books cause us (or help us) to feel things we'd otherwise be too afraid to feel, the things left unexpressed without the intervention of literary provocation, without the safe space between words on pages. [...]

Words of wisdom from my past self…

This day several years ago I posted two things that still resonate with me, that I hope might resonate with all of you as well. The first: It isn't what you say or do that cuts the deepest, it is what you fail to say and choose not to do. That negative space where something (an [...]

Catching Feelings

There is something my kids often say that, as a word person and a person who cares about people, really makes my wheels turn for a number of reasons. They say, "I can't catch feelings anymore" or "I don't want to catch feelings anymore." This phraseology makes me wonder at what point in language this [...]

Mara: Marred by Delusions, Finding Inner Peace

Those of us who have been in therapy probably all know very well the phrases, "you must be able to sit with the emotions." Or, "there is only going through the emotions." Or some variation on the same theme. The idea that we have to stop avoiding our emotions, stop dissociating from them if there [...]

Sanctuary from a Dim World

Sometimes even the brightest lights don't shine quite as brightly as they usually do. Even the sun is obscured today, making for a world that is literally and figuratively dim. The fog has been acting as a thick blanket this week, effectively erasing tall buildings, cars, people. It's a strange experience of the world. My [...]

A Teacher’s Perspective on Mass Shootings in American Schools

If you've read my very first blog post then you know I'm a teacher. You also might know that I'm someone with a deep well of emotion. I am quite gifted at numbing those emotions, usually. But when it comes to things like mass shootings in schools, I come undone. I feel pain that is [...]