Question of the Day

Inspiration can come from strange places. This question of the day is brought to you by Brazilian drama inspired musings. Sometimes when we are raised in settings that are clinically defined as "less than nurturing" or "not good enough" (depending on whose language you choose) we learn ways of coping which, in the moment, are [...]

EMDR today

I haven't been sharing much about my therapy journey anymore because, well, it has mostly been about putting out the fires in my present life. But, today I got to process some past stuff with EMDR. I've been in therapy for several months now and we have used EMDR to process some present traumas but [...]

Experiences of Synchronicity

Wednesday, my therapy day, was quite unusual. There isn't any way my words will do justice to the events of the day but I'm still going to try. The best way I can describe the day is through the notion of Synchronicity. This is basically Carl Jung's fancy explanation for those strange coincidences that feel [...]

Finally, Fighting for Myself

So, I’ve said I don’t know how many times on here that I really wish that I could do individual therapy with J, that I trust her and feel a sense of security with her and that she gets me. Blah, blah. All the good things. But, it was complicated because I am working K, [...]

A Letter to Caffeine

For my addictions counseling course, we have to give up a substance which we are presumably somewhat addicted to... as part of the assignment, we also have to write a letter to our substance. To be included in the letter are these components: How my addictive substance/behavior is loved and is considered a “friend” How [...]

A Space for Love in Therapy

This blog won't be long. I don't have a lot to say on this topic, simply that I think there should be space for love in therapy. I know that's taboo. That's why we have empathy and unconditional positive regard. I get how therapists have worked really hard to protect the boundaries of the therapeutic [...]

When Self-Care Hurts

Sometimes the things we do to take care of ourselves are going to hurt. Sometimes they're going to hurt like Hell. As long as they are healthy and truly rooted in self-care, do them anyway. Yesterday, I may have taken my self-care routine a little too far but opportunities presented themselves and I took them. [...]

Difficult Day, Healthy Choices

Yesterday was a difficult day. I received my appraisal from my supervisor. She marked me down significantly for my absences, some of which were completely out of my control. I felt punished for something that was, in part, not completely my choice. Not to say I am completely blameless here. I know I have chosen [...]