More Wisdom from my Younger Self

This day, the day that would have been my anniversary, 4 years ago I wrote this: "I realized tonight that I really need to stop apologizing for just being myself. I am a messy, complicated, sensitive, super emotional, overanalyzing human. I'm imperfect. I can be difficult. But, I'm also incredibly loyal. I'm probably excessively generous. [...]

Musings from Teacherland

Yesterday all the teachers at my school were called into a meeting. One of our students was found dead in his car, a few cities away. Police don't suspect foul play which leaves us to speculate that it is either a freak accident, natural causes, or suicide. We were told only to tell students the [...]

Words of wisdom from my past self…

This day several years ago I posted two things that still resonate with me, that I hope might resonate with all of you as well. The first: It isn't what you say or do that cuts the deepest, it is what you fail to say and choose not to do. That negative space where something (an [...]

A Lifetime of Running from My Own Presence

Therapy is a lot like school: there is homework. But, it's life homework. Presumably the kind of thing that makes us better versions of who we already are. I don't know. I haven't decided if there is truth to that but I'm doing the homework anyway. Because I've always been a tenacious student and I'll [...]

To my “almost” daughter: Anika

My dear sweet, Anika, today would have been your birthday. 11 years. 11 years of unconditional love, of kissed "owies", of discovering books and hobbies and mysteries together. 11 years of learning who you are and figuring out who you want to become. 11 years of play, of laughter, of joy, of sheer silliness. 11 [...]

Wilting in the Shadow of God

With my grandfather's death and funeral I was reminded of the kind of Christianity my family practices. It isn't the kind that believes in grace as acceptance of all those who are not worthy. It isn't the kind that believes in mercy or forgiveness for every sinner. It is not the kind that believes in [...]