This day, the day that would have been my anniversary, 4 years ago I wrote this: "I realized tonight that I really need to stop apologizing for just being myself. I am a messy, complicated, sensitive, super emotional, overanalyzing human. I'm imperfect. I can be difficult. But, I'm also incredibly loyal. I'm probably excessively generous. [...]
Tag: love
What Song Does Your Heart Sing?
The soul is in a dissonant state when too much time is spent denying one's true nature. We cannot be who others need and want us to be, only who we truly are at our core. If through being ourselves we are forced to stare down rejection, fear, anxiety, and insecurity-- so be it. There [...]
A Space for Love in Therapy
This blog won't be long. I don't have a lot to say on this topic, simply that I think there should be space for love in therapy. I know that's taboo. That's why we have empathy and unconditional positive regard. I get how therapists have worked really hard to protect the boundaries of the therapeutic [...]
Therapy Homework: “Love Letters” Technique
I am not going to lie, I was going to adamantly not do this weeks therapy homework. When Dr. W gave me the paper that says, "The purpose of this love letter is to express and resolve all the negative feelings that prevent you from experiencing and sharing the love you feel deep inside", I thought, "this [...]
I am not an Imposter
I am not an imposter among survivors. I am not a victim. The other day a former friend called me a victim, told me I'd always be that way, that I push people away, that I'm hard to help. I let myself feel hurt and victimized by those statements. I let her words become prophetic. [...]
Loving Yourself When You’re the Toxic Person
We are, on occasion, going to be the Toxic person in our relationships. This is probably one of the hardest things to admit to ourselves because let's be real, it is easier if the hurt is the other person's fault. But sometimes, it just isn't. Sometimes it is us reenacting past behaviors, creating very real present [...]
Loving Kindness and all that Jazz
Apparently on this day for the last several years I've been incredibly mindful and reflective. I shared this on my Facebook 3 years ago: I still believe in that world, the one held together by love. Even as I see the world around me becoming a darker place, I keep believing in the power of [...]
10 Reasons Why…
Okay, I'm about to brag on my "kids." I call them kids but really they are all 17 to 19 so in the eyes of our state, adults. However, in the eyes of me, their adoring teacher, they're still kids with sweet, loyal, loving hearts. So, without further adieu... 10 Reasons Why my Kids Make [...]
Sanctuary from a Dim World
Sometimes even the brightest lights don't shine quite as brightly as they usually do. Even the sun is obscured today, making for a world that is literally and figuratively dim. The fog has been acting as a thick blanket this week, effectively erasing tall buildings, cars, people. It's a strange experience of the world. My [...]
A Love Letter to All My Jagged Edges
Today, the "day of love", I'm deciding to take back a little love for myself. I'm going to write a letter to all the parts of myself I've tried desperately to disavow. To all my jagged edges, My scars: you are cherished. You are the evidence that I have chosen to survive. You are outward [...]
