More Wisdom from my Younger Self

This day, the day that would have been my anniversary, 4 years ago I wrote this: "I realized tonight that I really need to stop apologizing for just being myself. I am a messy, complicated, sensitive, super emotional, overanalyzing human. I'm imperfect. I can be difficult. But, I'm also incredibly loyal. I'm probably excessively generous. [...]

A Space for Love in Therapy

This blog won't be long. I don't have a lot to say on this topic, simply that I think there should be space for love in therapy. I know that's taboo. That's why we have empathy and unconditional positive regard. I get how therapists have worked really hard to protect the boundaries of the therapeutic [...]

Therapy Homework: “Love Letters” Technique

I am not going to lie, I was going to adamantly not do this weeks therapy homework. When Dr. W gave me the paper that says, "The purpose of this love letter is to express and resolve all the negative feelings that prevent you from experiencing and sharing the love you feel deep inside", I thought, "this [...]

I am not an Imposter

I am not an imposter among survivors. I am not a victim. The other day a former friend called me a victim, told me I'd always be that way, that I push people away, that I'm hard to help. I let myself feel hurt and victimized by those statements. I let her words become prophetic. [...]

Loving Yourself When You’re the Toxic Person

We are, on occasion, going to be the Toxic person in our relationships. This is probably one of the hardest things to admit to ourselves because let's be real, it is easier if the hurt is the other person's fault. But sometimes, it just isn't. Sometimes it is us reenacting past behaviors, creating very real present [...]

Loving Kindness and all that Jazz

Apparently on this day for the last several years I've been incredibly mindful and reflective. I shared this on my Facebook 3 years ago: I still believe in that world, the one held together by love. Even as I see the world around me becoming a darker place, I keep believing in the power of [...]