Self-Compassion Letter

My TS therapist has been trying to get me to write a self-compassion letter for ages. I haven't done it because I'm stubborn and it seemed difficult. After a few tough weeks of no therapy and then a few tough weeks of therapy, she brought the letter up again. This time I figured I would [...]

Gratitude and The Sh*t I Don’t Want to Say

This post serves two purposes: I want to celebrate the incredible gifts I've received in therapy but I also want to explore my story, the shit I don't want to say. I've been down lately, in one of the valleys of my recovery. I've built this incredible foundation in my team of mental health professionals [...]

Finally, Fighting for Myself

So, I’ve said I don’t know how many times on here that I really wish that I could do individual therapy with J, that I trust her and feel a sense of security with her and that she gets me. Blah, blah. All the good things. But, it was complicated because I am working K, [...]

EmBODY Love and Almost Motherhood

Yesterday I had the privilege of participating in an embody love workshop (if you want to learn more, you can go here: http://embodylovemovement.org), the idea of which is to empower women to accept themselves for exactly who they are and what their bodies are; it essentially works toward breaking down the insiduousness of microagressions and patriarchal [...]

Loving Yourself When You’re the Toxic Person

We are, on occasion, going to be the Toxic person in our relationships. This is probably one of the hardest things to admit to ourselves because let's be real, it is easier if the hurt is the other person's fault. But sometimes, it just isn't. Sometimes it is us reenacting past behaviors, creating very real present [...]

A Love Letter to All My Jagged Edges

Today, the "day of love", I'm deciding to take back a little love for myself. I'm going to write a letter to all the parts of myself I've tried desperately to disavow. To all my jagged edges, My scars: you are cherished. You are the evidence that I have chosen to survive. You are outward [...]

How Healing Hurts

Okay, sorry, I couldn't pass up an opportunity for some quality alliteration. This post is, however, about how the process of healing is damn painful... and how that's completely normal. Yet, some things, some types of pain are probably not normal along the path. So, I am going to try to talk a little bit [...]